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8:56 am - Posted by Gregg

Like many reading this, I’ve been struggling to understand the high level of divisiveness that’s permeating our national mood as of late. It was only recently that I discovered an even greater lightning rod for inciting strong opinions and, in some cases, public outrage. And no, I’m not referring to how you may or may not have voted for in the last presidential election, but to my… (dare I admit having it so publicly?) man bun.

At the risk of sounding defensive, I feel compelled to share that growing my hair long enough to entertain having a man bun was never my intent. At least not originally. But after sporting a new style that my barber suggested, I found my hair getting longer and longer. I enjoyed the length when out, socially—but needed a way to keep it out of my face while working. Thus, my first attempt at man-bun-ding took place. And I have to say; it proved to be an effective method for not having to deal with long hair during the work day.

But never in my life would I have predicted that public reaction to said man bun would be so resolute and even vindictive—often from people I’d never met before. I also received a lot of flack from friends, many asking, “Why?”—as if I’d done something to purposely insult them.

Between you and me, it was never my intent to keep my man bun as part of my “look” for very long. But with every outcry I received over it, I felt more and more compelled to keep it around for a while. Not so much to upset people, but because I was fascinated with peoples’ overt reactions. It was as if the hair on my head, when tied up with a small band and curled into a bun (yes, much like the style sported by one Pebbles Flintstone) was being done to intentionally ruin their day.

The parallels to other life disagreements have not been lost on me. With the advent of social media, we’ve all become a little more courageous in regard to sharing our opinions loudly and proudly. But is doing so really “brave” when hiding behind a 140 word-count on Twitter or similar platforms offered by facebook and other online pulpits? What’s happened to “Live and let live?” Much less “Acceptance?”

I know that, for myself, when I don’t accept the circumstances of life, I can come undone, mentally. This often plays out in the confines of my head, hidden from public view—until someone shares an opinion I disagree with (often on TV), which can sometimes make me spin out of control. I then (mistakenly) believe I have the power to not only prove that my viewpoint is more right than someone else’s, but also to instantly change the opinion of the person who doesn’t share my point of view.

Of course, I acknowledge that political, religious and other strongly held beliefs are important to us (and carry much greater impact than whether or not someone likes my hairstyle). But does it really matter to anyone if I have a man bun or not? And does it really matter if someone has different beliefs than I do? Can’t we coexist in a peaceful manner and even draw some comfort from the fact that having different opinions, beliefs and ways of doing things can offer more flavor to everyday life?

While on the topic of hairstyles, I’d be remiss if I didn’t nod to the “perm” I had back when I graduated from college—the same time period during which I weighed over 450 pounds. As shared in my book Weightless: My Life as a Fat Man and How I Escaped, I was a virtual recluse during that part of my life. I was terrified of being judged for not being able to successfully take off the excess weight (no matter how often I’d tried to). And yet somehow I got the courage to venture out of my apartment to get a “perm” hairstyle. I marvel at this now. Because no matter how afraid of people I’d become or how convinced I was that my life was over, I must have had a little hope—symbolized by wanting to affect my looks the only way I could at that time (by getting a new hairstyle).

There may be one day when I look back on having a man bun and shudder. But perhaps it will represent a little bit of courage or—if nothing else—a great sense of humor. (That’ll be my story anyway.)

Looking back aside, I don’t expect my man bun to inspire world peace. In fact, just last week someone assured me that I was encouraging deviant behavior in the form of today’s version of the mullet. That may or may not be true. If so, I’d be the first to laugh. If there’s a way to be a goofball in this life, I’m usually the one to go there (often unintentionally, I assure you). But if having a man bun can remind me to show the same kind of compassion to others that I’d like to receive myself, then everyone wins.

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April 27, 2017

Let your light shine

11:45 am - Posted by Gregg

I recently happened upon this meme from Robin Sharma that serves as a good reminder for us all.

Too often, when thinking about goals or embarking on a diet or healthy eating plan, we think about how fabulous we will be — as opposed to how amazing we are in the moment. Fact is, the more we believe in ourselves and our worth, the better chance we have of achieving any goal we set for ourselves (whether having to do with losing weight, getting healthier, getting ahead in our careers, strengthening relationships or whatever).

This doesn’t mean we can’t aspire to be more, do more and have more. But the more we remind ourselves of our true fabulosity (even in this very moment), the more momentum we’ll have. So take a minute today (and everyday) to read this and other positive memes that can remind you how important you are to the planet. There’s only one you. And yes, you are amazing. Believe it.

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April 3, 2017

Quick tip

11:27 am - Posted by Gregg

I love treating myself at restaurants that use clean, organic ingredients and serve even decedent foods in healthy portion sizes (along with fresh fruit or vegetables). Pictured here is one of my recent breakfast meals: A Belgian Waffle with Berries and Cream at Le Pain Quotidien. (And no, this is not a paid endorsement!)

Bonus round when I can walk to and from the restaurant (in addition to other exercise I’ve already done or will do on the same day). This quick tip is proof that even those of us watching our (or trying to lose some) weight can live life to the fullest even when working toward our best selves!

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9:36 am - Posted by Gregg

I have to admit that one of the best therapies I’ve ever encountered is one that has never cost me a single cent. And good news—this free therapy is available to everyone reading this. One need only visit their nearest shopping mall and find the mall map. Then locate the portion of the display that says, “You are here.” Because guess what? You are here. Period.

Often, we linger in the past (at least mentally)—replaying past decisions, past circumstances and even past failures (or at least incidents that we classify as failures). But spending too much time looking into the rearview mirror can inhibit not only our present state, but also our state of mind.

It all comes down to clear thinking. And that often starts with accepting what was—along with accepting that there’s no going backwards and changing it. So to debate or belabor what happened is really a mute exercise.

Sounds simple, right? But many of us (myself included) spend too much time wondering why things happened the way they did… And why we responded or reacted certain ways (often wanting to change everything that’s already transpired—and, therefore, cannot be altered). Even though there’s no time machine that we know of, we often live life as if we’ve lost the keys to one—as if we might have the capability to un-do something or somehow make it right.

But no matter how many times we replay past events or decisions in our heads, they are never going to be undone. So the sooner we swallow hard and move on, the better. And yes, this theory can apply when we’re the (so-called) victims of circumstance as well.

Recently my spouse was laid off for no apparent reason (other than the new go-to word for being laid off, “rightsizing”)—despite being one of the company’s top performers. Boy, have I wrestled with this situation in my head… Wanting to know why it happened—or if there was someway we could have played things differently so that it wouldn’t have happened. But guess what? None of this mental clutter changes anything. Time to look for a new job. And any kind of “Woe is me” or refusal to let go (AKA “accept”) simply hurts our family and us. We are here. Like it or not.

And speaking of the “like it” part, you don’t necessarily have to like it. But still, you are here. You’re not anywhere but here. So no matter what you’re facing (whether a medical issue, breakup, job-related or financial issue or the 1,000th time you might be committing to losing some excess weight and getting healthier), the sooner you accept that you are here, the sooner you can take the first step into what can be the next great chapter of your life.

Again, I know this all sounds very simple. Some might suggest it’s even trite. But I promise that carrying around this mental reminder that the past is in the past and the future is in the future and that staying present offers us the clearest mindset (and, therefore, the clearest decision making capabilities) can be helpful. No matter what’s transpired… No matter what you’re facing… No matter how unfair… No matter if it was self-sabotage… Repeat after me: We. Are. Here.

And with a mental state of acceptance, here can be full of as many opportunities and possibilities as we allow it to be.

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3:53 pm - Posted by Gregg

Keeping Excess Weight Off JustStopEatingSoMuch.com

By Lisa Goldberg, Licensed Clinical Nutritionist

Why do you think sustainable weight loss eludes you?  You’re smart, savvy and you know what healthy is and what it’s not. You’ve probably read a million books and articles on eating healthy for weight loss. You have all of the information.  So how is it you know what to do but you just can’t do it??

Your struggle with weight just drains you. You wrack your brain wondering why the weight just won’t come off no matter what you do. You have tried every trick in the book. You lose weight but over time the weight slowly comes back on. Or maybe for you it quickly comes back.

What do you think that’s all about? Lack of motivation? Lack of willpower? Laziness?

I want to let you know its not any of those things. It’s about your self-defeating behaviors.

What exactly are self-defeating behaviors? Actions or attitudes stemming from faulty or limited beliefs that once worked to help us cope with hurtful experiences, but now they prevent us from responding to life in healthy ways.

These behaviors lead us to make choices in all aspects of our life, health, work, relationships etc that perpetuate cycles of failure. Samples of this include: My metabolism is broken so why should I try? Nothing works for me. I am destined to be overweight. No matter what I do the weight will come back. I’m afraid to fail again… Do any of these sound Familiar?

It is your self-defeating behaviors and faulty beliefs that keep you stuck in your struggle with food, weight loss, relationships and anything else you haven’t been able to sustainably change in your life.

This is why the weight always comes back. Because all you’ve done is focus on changing the food. You’ve haven’t yet addressed the “Why.”

You can continue to try every diet on the planet but unless you change what you believe about yourself and the behaviors that follow…the weight will always come back.

Close your eyes for a few seconds and imagine what it would feel like to continuously replace self-defeating behaviors with life-enhancing behaviors. You continuously make choices that make you feel good, happy and proud. Imagine how that would feel? Pretty darn good, right? Well, I want to let you know this is possible.

I want to let you know that by learning the right tools and strategies you can change your self-defeating behaviors to new, habitual life-enhancing behaviors so you can overcome your struggle with food and lose the weight for good.

After all, you know its never really about the food. It’s about changing the habits, behaviors and your old coping mechanism that causes you to eat to soothe your feelings with food. If you are done with the quick fixes and you are ready to address the root cause of your yo-yo dieting, don’t wait any longer to set up a call with me to see how I can support you.

Don’t let fear of change, fear of failure, indecision or caring what other people think stop you. Life is just too short to stay stuck in old patterns that no longer serve you. Over the last 16 years I have had hundreds of clients put their trust in me to help them change the behaviors that keep them stuck in their struggle with food and desirable weight loss. Here are some of their discoveries and Ah-ha moments:

“Thanks to you for the large part, I have not been bingeing even through all this! I haven’t lost anymore but I haven’t gained either.  I already knew everything you taught me however you say it in a magical way that I truly get it!”

“I am a totally different in terms of how I eat and how I think about food. All the techniques we have discussed were extremely helpful in getting me to this point which I call “autopilot.” I have started focusing less on restricting my intake and more on eating healthy foods”

“Posting a few wins that happened this week. I received a few compliments that I have really “slimmed down” and it shows in my clothes. I think by not letting the number on the scale stress me out and dictate my mood for the day – I have been able lose more inches.”

“I’m really understanding now when you said it’s just food – it has NO magical powers. It might make me feel good for a few seconds but that is nothing compared to how long the great feeling for losing weight and being healthy lasts. I’m going to remember that at difficult or stressful times and in the heat of the moment when my mind thinks of nothing but food and I start reaching for the food that I think will “solve” my unpleasant feeling.”

Take the first step at this very moment to start to change your self-defeating behaviors and stop saying “What if I can’t?” and start saying “Yes, I can!”

Keeping The Excess Weight Off JustStopEatingSoMuch.comAbout the Guest Blogger:
Lisa Goldberg
is a nutritionist with a Masters degree in Clinical Nutrition from New York University. In addition, her certifications and Licenses include: Certified Nutrition Specialist, Certified Dietician/Nutritionist licensed by New York State, Certified in Adult Weight Management by the ADA. Lisa is also a personal trainer certified by the American Counsel on Exercise since 1994. She was the Nutritionist at the New York Stock Exchange from 2003-2007 and for 10 years served as the nutritionist to traders on Wall Street. Anyone who would like to discuss their weight loss goals with Lisa can schedule a free 30-minute weight loss consultation with her by clicking here. (Simply let Lisa know you found out about her on the Just Stop! blog.)

A Note from Gregg:
As some of you Just Stoppers might remember, I have been lucky enough to be a guest in nutrition rockstar Lisa Goldberg’s recent weight loss summits not once, but twice. I love Lisa’s total approach to wellness, which not only includes getting to a healthy weight, but also enjoying life and learning to love and appreciate yourself in the process. Lisa is about to begin her exclusive 6 month online group weight loss program (for the body, mind and soul) – during which you can discover how to break old habits and behavior patterns that keep you from losing weight once and for all.

Any Just Stopper who wants to find out more information (without any obligation), can click here to schedule a free 30-minute Discovery Session with Lisa herself to find out more about the upcoming 6 month online group weight loss program.

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