Posts Tagged ‘breath’
Let go, let new
Guess what? What happened yesterday, last week, last month or last year (or even a decade ago) is permanent history. That’s right – permanent. None of us own time machines (and believe me, I’ve looked for mine exhaustively). Similarly, none of us have magic wands. We can’t undo what’s already transpired. So what does that mean to you and me? We’re here now. At this starting point. So why not take the next step (in whatever direction that is – health, career, love life, family relations, etc.) with an attitude that embraces what’s new (without shaming ourselves for what’s in our past)?
The goals you reach may be your own. I believe in you (I really do). So take a deep breath and let the next minute, day, week, month or year unfold. You’re beautiful. You matter. And you’ve got it goin’ on. And if anyone doubts that, you can tell them I told you so!
P.S. If you do happen to have a time machine or magic wand, please contact me!
Photo Source: Instagram
Don’t take this image the wrong way. Muffin tops are beautiful. Heck, muffins themselves are beautiful. Every body is beautiful – exactly as it is right in this moment. You can be sure of that (and anyone who tells you different is full of crap).
But that being said, there are many of us who want to make healthy changes that can help us to not only feel better, but to also put on our clothes without having to hold our breath or offer up a prayer for strength (literally) when zipping up.
This can require making choices a little differently than we have in the past. Like choosing water over cake for example. Not always. But often. Changes like this remind us that cake is a treat (as opposed to an everyday requirement). We can’t say the same for water, which is absolutely necessary for our survival and for our transformation.
So without shaming yourself (which is never productive), ask yourself what you really want next time you’re tempted by something sweet (that might add a few too many calories or artificial ingredients to your daily intake). Maybe a glass of water and vigorous walk is what your body, mind and soul are really craving. If so, give your body that. And if you absolutely must have the cake (and I’ll admit there are times that’s true), then have a reasonable slice – and then have a glass of water and go for a vigorous walk. (See what I did there?)
It’s all about balance, moderation and your overall goals. And you, my amazing, beautiful friend, are worth it!
Make no mistake! I’m all for everyone on this planet dropping excess body weight and getting fit and healthy. As someone who used to weigh over 450 pounds, I know what it’s like to struggle to take even the next step (much less try not to sound out of breath even when just talking on the phone). But I also know that hating or shaming ourselves is no method for making permanent, positive change (no matter what you weigh). And that means loving yourself in the present moment (all of yourself).
Because of this, I love it when we can catch glimpses of body positive actors in favorite TV shows. This doesn’t happen nearly enough. After all, just as we all come in different nationalities, we also come in different sizes. And for anyone struggling with weight issues and self-esteem issues (they usually happen hand-in-hand), seeing actors being sexy at any size on TV (or at the movies) can be very freeing (and even healing).
Recently, I’ve been loving actor Alyssa Diaz who appears as a wrestler-dominatrix and this current season’s love interest for Bunchy on Showtime’s Ray Donovan. Ms. Diaz not only owns her body size, but also exhibits a very confidant sexual prowess. And no, I’m not saying Ms. Diaz is heavy. But she does show off the kind of fabulous body that we don’t often see on the boob tube (so to speak). It’s sad that this kind of exhibit of the body beautiful doesn’t occur enough on primetime TV. So when it happens, I want to call attention to it with thunderous applause. So kudos to Ms. Diaz, to Ray Donovan, to Showtime and to all the viewers who support shows that demonstrate true diversity by continually tuning in.
Fact is, the more we accept and respect others (no matter who they are or what they look like), the more likely we’ll extend that kind of acceptance (and even kindness) to ourselves. And when we change this mindset about ourselves, we’re more likely to to initiate healthy, positive change (whether that means losing weight, quitting smoking, changing careers — whatever).
It’s true! You can do anything. But you’re likely to find you’ll do it a lot easier (and happier) by loving yourself as you are in this present moment. And guess what? You deserve the love (all of it)!
Ray Donovan Still Shot Photo Source: The Girl That Loved To Review