Posts Tagged ‘change’
There is a lone Chorisia Speciosa Floss-Silk Tree in my neighborhood that blooms only once a year. This is a tree I regularly pass when walking my dog, Latte. While early autumn results in brilliant flowers on the tree, it remains dormant and bare throughout the rest of the year.
I remember this past winter, walking by the tree’s stark, empty branches just days after my husband had abruptly lost his job. We were crushed, scared, and unsure of how things would right themselves — and not yet knowing that the coronavirus pandemic was around the corner, which would add even more challenge to the job hunt we were already facing.
And so on that chilly January day, I stood before the tree and took note of its bare, lifeless branches—no blooms to behold. Since I was beset with upsetting news, I decided the tree looked too lifeless, too baron to ever blossom again. I then remembered thinking that every year around this time I’d decided the tree wouldn’t bloom again even though I’d walked past it enough autumns to see that its flowers always returned on the regular.
After a moment, while standing there with Latte on that cold winter day, I took a deep breath and assured myself, “When this tree flowers again, a lot will have changed and this current state of dread will be behind us.” In other words, I gently reminded myself that there was reason for hope. Time would go by. Life would go on. And (hopefully) positive changes would occur. The tree would bloom again. . . and so would our household, job-wise.
As this current autumn returns and the tree has once again brought forth brilliant flowers, change has occurred. My husband now has a job that he’s really enjoying, miraculously secured during the days of the pandemic. Of course, other changes have come our way as well, not all of them stellar or necessarily welcomed. But here these flowers are—reminding us that change is constant. And so is hope.
Too often we get caught up in the emotions and panic that come with sudden bad news or a switch in circumstances we weren’t expecting or flat out didn’t want. When people tell us that with time the change might prove to be for the best, we sometimes want to plug our ears and ignore them. The fear, pain, and unknowing are all too real. But time does march on, whether we want to acknowledge it or not.
Of course, time doesn’t always proceed at the pace we might desire, especially when in the throes of what seems like a dire situation. And we sometimes need to be careful to not react in a way that reveals more of our angst than it does our acceptance of the volatile situation at hand.
Sometimes the unknown can offer more stress and fear than a particular situation we have to face or tackle. During these days of quarantining and locking down, none of us can be sure where different aspects of society are headed.
Similarly, even good news or current states of joy can be fleeting. Another reminder to stay present, soak in “What is,” and know that everything is evolving and that change is not only constant but imminent.
This is where taking some deep breaths and encouraging our own mindfulness comes in. If you don’t have a meditation practice, this might be a helpful time to begin one. The less we deny what’s going on and the more acceptance we embody, the sooner we can allow life to go on, which can lead to new and, perhaps, unexpected options.
But we needn’t rely entirely on our own psyche. Challenging situations and times offer a chance to look for guidance from nature, which can include a very unique tree that we think might never bloom again.
The gorgeous, once-a-year flowers on the Chorisia Speciosa do return. They remind us that life is a cycle. And that if we stay present while remembering change is coming, we—even if currently dormant in our own way—will also surely bloom again. And brilliantly at that.
Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day. And goals aren’t always reached overnight. Be patient with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be in love with who you are in this very moment. Only then can real and permanent change begin to take place. Even if you’re feeling overwhelmed or as if you haven’t done as much for your health-related goals as you’d intended to by now, commit to doing one kind and healthy thing for yourself today. Does that mean taking stairs instead of the elevator? Skipping dessert after a work lunch? Watching a little less TV tonight and getting a little more sleep? Whatever it is, choose one thing and accomplish it. That’s you. Reaching goals like a boss. (I believe in you.)
How’s your new year going so far? For many of us, the rush of post-holiday chores (and challenges) might have you a little flustered. We often think that come January 1st, some sort of imaginary light switch can be flicked in order to initiate change in all aspects of our lives — whether that’s related to diet, exercise, mindfulness or other habits that affect us on a daily basis. Sadly, that light switch doesn’t exist. But that can be turned into good news when we remember we have every minute of every day to get it right. “Step by step” as it were. So be gentle with yourself. But don’t give up on your goals. You are worth it. And you are amazing!
Want to know why 22 of the world’s leading nutritionists, psychologists and transformation experts tell their clients to take the “Non-diet Approach?” Perhaps because the world is full of diets (seems like there’s a new one every day). And yet people seem to be having a harder and harder time losing weight. Would you agree you’ve had similar results? I know I did when I was on the diet rollercoaster. Up and down and round and round. (Emphasis on “round” – the pounds always seemed to find their way back to me!)
If you’ve noticed how difficult it is to lose weight and keep it off by dieting, you’re not alone. In fact, all of the experts mentioned above agree that losing weight is about so much more than following another diet plan. And they are all gathering together in a monumental, transformational online event called the Right Mind, Right Weight Summit 2017 to discuss how changing the relationship you have with food (instead of staying on the diet roller coaster) can transform the way you approach weight loss so you can learn how to keep it off for good!
Because this event isn’t open to the public, you can only get access if you are invited by a member of the panel of experts. And lucky for you… Yours truly is on the panel! So, if you’d like to join me in taking part in this transformational and life-changing tele-summit (which is absolutely free of charge), then all you need to do is claim your spot by registering at this link.
Because this is an 11-day tele-summit, over the course of 11 days you’ll be receiving emails with links to the live sessions. That means you don’t need to travel anywhere, you don’t even need to change out of your pajamas! (And don’t forget – it’s free!)
Just sign up by clicking here, get ready to take notes and to experience a transformational change that will hopefully give you the tools you need to finally stop dieting forever!
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Jordan Ring recently alerted me to his article “25 Small Changes You Can Make to Lose Weight, Feel Better and Live Longer,” which (as promised) is chock full of easy and helpful ideas for anyone looking to take their health to the next level. Jordan divides up these health-minded tips between dietary, lifestyle and attitude changes – making it easy for the reader to pick and choose which tips he or she might want to put into practice.
I’ve always loved this approach to feeling and looking better. Too often, when wanting to initiate important change in our lives, we take on an “All or nothing” approach, which can lead to instant failure the first time we fall off the wagon (however one defines his or her own wagon).
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