Posts Tagged ‘happiness’
One early morning while sucking down my coffee like it was oxygen, I looked out of my kitchen window, down into the courtyard of the apartment building across the way. I noticed a man placing a box with a small plant into the sunlight. At first, I assumed he was doing some gardening. But then noticed he left the box in the sunlight and had walked away. Upon further examination (AKA “not minding my own business and staring out the window”), I saw that the small plant was actually a beautifully maintained Bonsai Tree.
A few days later, I saw the same man once again placing the box with the Bonsai into the sunlight, then leaving it there for a couple hours. I now deducted that after allowing it to soak up some Vitamin D, this man then takes his carefully cared for plant back into his home. (Who says I couldn’t run a detective agency?)
Seeing this man take care of his Bonsai Tree (which is clearly thriving) from time to time warms my heart—and it’s a sight I look forward to seeing when I’m lucky enough to notice this ritual in motion. Whether witnessing the man placing the tree into the sunlight or even just seeing the tree already in its spot fills my heart with joy. This man’s beautiful ritual reminds me of the level of care I need to make sure I’m giving to myself. And this is also the same level of care you might want to be giving to yourself, as well.
When we care for something, it thrives. This can be seen in my neighbor’s Bonsai Tree or even in the happiness level of my dog, Latte. It’s therefore important that we give the same kind of love and care to ourselves—as well as our health-minded goals. This might initially seem like common sense. But often, when we discuss our goals with others, we frame things in the negative: “I haven’t been able to do this” or “I am such a loser when it comes to that.”
When people I know tell me they need to lose weight, I can often detect a degree of self-loathing in their tone. I can relate—knowing how much I hated myself when I weighed over 450 pounds.
This disdain for ourselves is an approach we’ve been taught is beneficial and will likely facilitate change. The thinking being, “You hate how you look, so do something about it.” But after learning to love myself at any size (both before and after I took off 250 pounds of excess weight), I am grateful to pass along what I’ve learned. If we actually love and care for ourselves — even as we are now in this very moment (no matter how many pounds overweight or how far from any goal)—we become more likely to encounter faster success.
If you know a good friend or family member that’s facing a challenge, you want to help them. But if it’s someone you have distaste for, you don’t really care if they succeed in their quest or not. Well, time for you to think of yourself in a more affectionate way and afford yourself the very same degree of care that my neighbor gives his Bonsai Tree or that I give my dog.
Do something kind for yourself today—throughout this day and everyday. And remind yourself why you’re a supermodel (which, for the record, you are). Suddenly, if you’re wanting to lose weight or reach any goal you’ve set out for yourself (health-related or otherwise), you’re doing it because you care, not because you’re disgusted. That’s going to make the journey a lot more pleasant and, I imagine, a lot more successful.
Just like my neighbor’s Bonsai Tree, it’s time for you to position yourself in the warm sunlight of tender loving care—and thrive.
Photo Source: Non Profit Self-Care
Too often when working to lose excess weight and adopt a healthier lifestyle, we focus in on what we’re giving up instead of what we’re gaining. Yes, gaining.
Health. Happiness. Peace of mind. A longer life. The list of benefits is endless.
So instead of focusing in on the things you’re choosing to do without (temporarily!), focus on how it’s going to feel to be able to wear a favorite pair of jeans you haven’t been able to put on for a while. Or what it will be like to take a walk without panting excessively. Or how good you’re going to look at your high school reunion. Again, the list of benefits goes on and on.
When I was taking off over 250 pounds of excess weight, I kept a scrapbook full of magazine clippings that motivated me. Whether they were pictures of clothes I wanted to wear, people I wanted to meet or articles that reminded me why I was doing what I was doing, I could turn to these anytime I felt like I was suffering. In the pages of my scrapbook, I was reminded of the reasons I was choosing to get healthy and live life to the fullest. These days, you don’t even need a traditional scrapbook thanks to Pinterest. So why not start some motivation-filled Pinterest pages of your own?
Again, choose your focus. And focus on what excites you. Just as Rumi so wisely said, “Respond to every call that excites your spirit” — and your waistline!
Photo Source: Pinterest
This moment counts more than any other before it. It’s your chance to recommit to what matters: your health, your happiness, your fabulosity. You really do have it goin’ on — no matter how much you weigh right now. If you choose, this can be the last time your weight or clothes size reflect their current numbers. Just make sure you make the choice for this kind of positive change from a place of wanting to feel better, look better and be better. But do so without any shame or guilt. Feeling down about yourself or past choices does nothing but hold you back. Nothing in the past matters like this moment does. Make it count. And remember — I believe in you.
Photo Source: Bonnie Pfiester
I am so excited about The Athlete Within Summit, hosted by my friend and colleague Renée Ramsdell, during which we can all learn how to build a strong and resilient body, unleash our self-esteem and embrace a healthier lifestyle.
This 21-day Online Event began on May 21 and you can still claim your free virtual seat by clicking here.
Are you tired of looking in the mirror and not liking what you see? Do you say no to activities that sound fun but seem impossible due to your weight or your sedentary habits? Are you finally ready to create real mind and body health along with achieving lasting happiness? This free online summit is about real health and life-long vitality. No more yo-yo dieting. No more exercise fads. No more starts and stops and start overs. There’s so much conflicting information on fitness and nutrition! It’s time to debunk the myths and reveal the truth behind lasting, vibrant health.
That’s why I’m thrilled to be a part of Renée Ramsdell’s virtual event. She has brought together 21 incredible experts to help all of us ditch the guilt, shame and confusion around weight loss and fitness — and learn to replace them with simple ideas that work to empower each and every one of us! It’s all the mind/body wellness information we’ve been looking for — all in one place.
The experts involved are Doctors, Coaches, Psychologists, Nutritionists, Motivators and Athletes — along with yours truly (and you all know once I get started, you can’t shut me up!)! Many of these experts have had their own issues with lack of fitness, poor body image, and an unhealthy relationship with food — and their amazing, inspiring personal stories reflect that. Together we can all reach real mind/body health and lasting happiness!
Photo Source: Pro Well Fitness
Do you have that nagging feeling, that if you just had that one illusive “secret” to unlock the door to your own “innate” healing powers, that you would finally reclaim your health, take back your body and your mind? Stop the insanity of up and down weight and on and off dieting? Are you finally ready to create truly honest health and happiness?
This upcoming Mindful Eating World Summit is about real health and life long vitality. No more fads, schemes and roller coaster dieting. We know deep down that much of what we have been taught about nutrition, fitness and health is just plain wrong. It’s time to reveal the truth behind the smoke and mirrors of the “diet world” once and for all.
This is why I’m so excited to be a part of Dr. Kellee Rutley’s virtual event. She’s brought together over 28 amazing, powerhouse experts to help you eliminate the guilt, shame and confusion around weight release and true health — and replace that with powerful ideas that work to empower you! It’s all the information you’ve wanted, needed and have been looking for, all in one place.
We are Doctors, Educators, Scientists, Zen Masters, Psychologists, Naturopaths and Holistic Chefs! New York Times and Hay House authors, World Renowned Master Trainers and Coaches. Many of us participating have had our own issues with poor health and unhealthy weight roller coasters — and our personal stories reflect that. (You all know this is very true for me… Someone who once weighed over 450 pounds and not only lost my excess weight but has kept it off for over a decade.) Together, we can reach for optimal health, vitality and happiness!
Take your health, your body and your mind back! This 14-day Virtual Event begins on March 16th. You can claim your free virtual seat by clicking here.