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The point of no return
I have to admit that one of the best therapies I’ve ever encountered is one that has never cost me a single cent. And good news—this free therapy is available to everyone reading this. One need only visit their nearest shopping mall and find the mall map. Then locate the portion of the display that says, “You are here.” Because guess what? You are here. Period.
Often, we linger in the past (at least mentally)—replaying past decisions, past circumstances and even past failures (or at least incidents that we classify as failures). But spending too much time looking into the rearview mirror can inhibit not only our present state, but also our state of mind.
It all comes down to clear thinking. And that often starts with accepting what was—along with accepting that there’s no going backwards and changing it. So to debate or belabor what happened is really a mute exercise.
Sounds simple, right? But many of us (myself included) spend too much time wondering why things happened the way they did… And why we responded or reacted certain ways (often wanting to change everything that’s already transpired—and, therefore, cannot be altered). Even though there’s no time machine that we know of, we often live life as if we’ve lost the keys to one—as if we might have the capability to un-do something or somehow make it right.
But no matter how many times we replay past events or decisions in our heads, they are never going to be undone. So the sooner we swallow hard and move on, the better. And yes, this theory can apply when we’re the (so-called) victims of circumstance as well.
Recently my spouse was laid off for no apparent reason (other than the new go-to word for being laid off, “rightsizing”)—despite being one of the company’s top performers. Boy, have I wrestled with this situation in my head… Wanting to know why it happened—or if there was someway we could have played things differently so that it wouldn’t have happened. But guess what? None of this mental clutter changes anything. Time to look for a new job. And any kind of “Woe is me” or refusal to let go (AKA “accept”) simply hurts our family and us. We are here. Like it or not.
And speaking of the “like it” part, you don’t necessarily have to like it. But still, you are here. You’re not anywhere but here. So no matter what you’re facing (whether a medical issue, breakup, job-related or financial issue or the 1,000th time you might be committing to losing some excess weight and getting healthier), the sooner you accept that you are here, the sooner you can take the first step into what can be the next great chapter of your life.
Again, I know this all sounds very simple. Some might suggest it’s even trite. But I promise that carrying around this mental reminder that the past is in the past and the future is in the future and that staying present offers us the clearest mindset (and, therefore, the clearest decision making capabilities) can be helpful. No matter what’s transpired… No matter what you’re facing… No matter how unfair… No matter if it was self-sabotage… Repeat after me: We. Are. Here.
And with a mental state of acceptance, here can be full of as many opportunities and possibilities as we allow it to be.
Where will today take you?
No matter what the scale reflected (number-wise) this morning or how tight your clothes might feel today, you are kicking butt when it comes to reaching your goals. No need to beat yourself up if you recently experienced a slip, eating-wise. Or if you didn’t make it to the gym as often as you intended to last week. Today is a new day. And a new chance to reignite your momentum toward your goals.
Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, what hasn’t worked or why you feel “less than,” turn your thoughts to reasons you want to feel better, look better and be better. Imagine putting on a pair of jeans without worrying you’re going to cut off your circulation when you fasten them. Imagine enjoying a reasonable amount of food at a party without obsessing about eating before, during or after the occasion. Imagine walking past a mirror and not listing “10 things I hate about you.” Or imagine your doctor giving you news that your health is improving.
The more positive your mindset, the more reachable your goals become. Who cares if you’re on a bit of a slow boat? You’re on the boat. That’s what matters. Life is about the journey (as opposed to the destination) after all. So why not live life on the happy side today — reminding yourself that you’re well on your way to improving what’s already fantastic even in this moment: Amazing, beautiful, incredible YOU!
Are you living for today?
If you’ve recently turned down some recent invitations to holiday parties because you’re not feeling your “best self,” its time to stop putting your life on hold and start smiling when you see yourself in the mirror. After all, you’re a supermodel. No matter what you weigh. No matter what your clothes size.
If you’re not attending that party or night out with friends because you can’t find anything to wear… Or if you thought that you’d be with your soulmate by now, but you’ll start pursing that after you drop the weight… Or if you find yourself always volunteering to take pictures so that you don’t have to be in them…
It’s time to open your eyes and discover exactly what’s possible when you start loving and nourishing your body and soul. In fact, I’d like to extend an opportunity for you to join me at the free online summit that will help you understand how to stop putting your life on hold and stop “weighting”! It’s called the Fat Girl Slim Summit: Learn to Love your Body, Release the Weight, and Confidently Live the Life of your Dreams (again, it’s a free virtual interview series).
Wellness experts and sisters Meg & Shannon Sullivan have invited me to participate in the Fat Girl Slim Summit. This event offers a chance to hear interviews with over 20 leading experts in the field of women’s health, wellness, self-love, and lifestyle (authors, doctors, researchers, and self-help innovators from health, fitness, wellness, healthy weight-loss, self-acceptance and motivation backgrounds — including yours truly).
You’ll be able to listen to my interview and the interviews of over 20 additional experts and learn not just the nourishment factors, but also the mindset strategies and emotional components that will allow you to fall in love with your body and release the weight that has been holding you back.
It’s called the “Fat Girl Slim Summit” because what you’ll learn is that while so many of us are striving to be “thin”, we are putting our lives on hold. But with the help of the amazing experts featured at this summer, you’re likely to discover that once you unlock the mental and emotional strategies needed to up-level your life and the way you feel about your body, you’ll start to love the body that you have, release the weight, and start smiling when you look in the mirror.
You’ll discover how amazing it feels to be the happy, healthy, and vibrant person that you deserve to be along with receiving:
- Access to 20+ interviews from leading women’s health & wellness experts
- Tips, information and strategies to learn how to start or continue your physical and emotional health journey (and the best part…you can start incorporating them now! )
- Techniques to overcome that feeling of frustration that creeps up when you keep trying to stay on track but life causes you to become derailed.
- Information about why you have to start living your authentic life and stop hiding behind the body that you have.
- Ways to Nourish your body, mind, and spirit
- And more
Each interview in this series will only be available for a limited time. So register today. Registration is free only to people receiving an invitation from the experts who are speaking (so consider this my invitation — AKA “free pass” for you!). Join me at this free virtual summit and interview series by clicking here — and give yourself the gift of feeling better about yourself in this very moment (starting now)!
Photo Source: Whole Food Love
Own your perfection
No matter what you think, you are perfect in this moment. Yes, you — you specifically!
And yes, perfection can accomplish change — but change is more likely when the want comes from a positive place of loving yourself. When I was able to finally take off over 250 pounds of excess weight, it was because I was loving myself in the “now.” When I hated myself, I just kept getting bigger and unhealthier. When I started looking in the mirror and seeing myself as a friend (and as terrific in the moment), real change started to occur. So next time you look in the mirror, remember that you are a supermodel. (True story!)
Photo Source: Spark People
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