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If dieting and weight loss has been a recurring theme in your life or if you struggle with mastering your own motivation or making peace with food and your body, I have something exciting to tell you about. My fellow coach, colleague and pal, Lisa Goldberg, has invited me and over twenty other well-known experts to join in a discussion that can help you discover the real reasons why dieting fails, and how mindset techniques and strategies are the key to not only losing weight and keeping the weight off, but maintaining a healthy lifestyle. These are people who have overcome incredible challenges and have made it their life’s mission to help others do the same. You will feel inspired and ready, fully equipped to meet and maintain your goals, free yourself from dieting, master your own mindset, and change your life forever. This online event is 100% free, but what you will learn is 100% priceless.
This event can help you to:
• End the struggle with emotional eating and create a healthy relationship with food – and stop dieting for GOOD
• Have more confidence in yourself and your body’s progress to see real and lasting results
• Break down your barriers to health and wellness success
• Discover real solutions that are delivering lasting results for people just like you
• Learn the importance of mindset in weight loss
• End Self-sabotage
• Make peace with food and heal your relationship with yourself and your body
• And more
Starting January 10th, you can listen in as these renowned health experts discuss the mindset of success, healthy lifestyle techniques, building confidence, self-care, and finally having the body and life you deserve! I’ve been invited to speak at one of the sessions, but I also personally plan on listening to each speaker so that I can gain important insights from other professionals to help my clients stop settling for less in life than they deserve, start feeling good about themselves every day and finally have the peace and health they’ve always wanted.
Mother’s Day is an occasion that always gives me pause since I spent most of my childhood struggling to survive in a household ruled by a monster (AKA my abusive mother). For anyone who thinks my descriptor is a bit harsh, I can assure you it’s not. What my sister and I endured while growing up was quite horrific in regard to the constant abuse we suffered—along with the lies we were forced to cover-up on behalf of dear ol’ mom.
I have a vivid memory of a time I tried to report the abuse to the police. Because it was many years ago (and because we, as a society, didn’t know better at the time) they dismissed my claims (since the bulk of the abuse wasn’t physical) and refused to investigate. Imagine a young teen hanging up the phone and turning to said abuser (my mother in this case) who had just heard me make the call. I get chills thinking about incidents like these. But still, I’ve made a vow to never suppress them or pretend as if they didn’t take place.
As faithful readers of this blog know, I spent most of my young life morbidly obese. I started to gain weight around first grade and by the time I graduated college weighed over 450 pounds. I imagine some mental health professionals might attribute this to creating a layer of protection to shield me from any relationship that I thought might cause me more—or continued—harm. This is not to say I didn’t struggle to lose this “layer of protection” throughout my childhood (even though I knew it made my mother livid to have an obese child given her penchant for telling people I had a disease that caused weight gain as opposed to simply confessing that I overate).
Once a young adult living on my own, I eventually realized that I had to let go of the mental weight (mostly comprised of memories of abuse) before I could let go of the physical weight. But even though I accomplished the goal of shedding the excess weight (and have remained a healthy weight since), I never want to forget what my sister and I went through. This is not to say I have a victim mentality. I wouldn’t encourage that in myself or anyone else. But an attitude of “acceptance” has proved most healing.
This happened. The abuse happened. It was real.
These days I can go for long periods of time without thinking about the abuse that my sister and I suffered (even though some of its after effects have been far reaching). But when “holidays” like Mother’s Day roll around, I can’t help but get a pit in my stomach when I see commercial-friendly media images that show mother and child (infant, toddler, teen or otherwise) living their happiest moments on screen or in print. I never knew this kind of relationship with my own mother. The concept remains foreign to me even to this day.
As for my mother being a “monster,” in hindsight I’ve come to accept that my mother was likely mentally ill given her outrageous behavior—which makes the real monsters other family members who, even though well aware of my mom’s actions, left my sister and I alone with her to raise us. I share this not out of spite, remorse or even sadness. But in an effort to let others who’ve had similar experiences know they’re not the only ones.
Many people breathe a sigh of relief when they learn what my sister and I lived through—because they were raised under similar circumstances. To talk about these issues doesn’t mean our goal is to demonize our parents. But abuse is abuse. And underage children often have no choice but to endure it—and to hopefully survive it. But even as adults—even when free from our abusers—we sometimes still have to make a conscious choice to continue to survive it. Especially on occasions when many are celebrating their mothers, which can potentially leave many adult survivors of child abuse feeling like we are weird, undeserving or, perhaps, as if we were in some way responsible for our tragic circumstances.
So yes—the occasion of Mother’s Day makes me somber. But it also reminds me that my sister and I—and so many of you—are survivors. We have all faced major challenges in our lives. Some on the outside, some from the inside. But we can continue to overcome these challenges (even the ones that still sometimes haunt us).
These days, when shopping for Mother’s Day cards, I pick up several. One card is for my sister, who’s managed to break the cycle of abuse and is an amazing mother to two beautiful children. And the additional cards are for other nurturing influences in my life who’ve taught me that a mother’s love can arrive in many forms (and from many different people). My self-defined version of Mother’s Day is definitely worthy of celebration. And yours can be, too. As long as its observed in a way that honors your fortitude—in addition to paying heed to moms of all kinds (perhaps even those, like mine, who were mentally ill and, maybe—just maybe—doing the best they knew how to do).
Do you think about the struggle with dieting, losing weight and keeping it off? Do you think about the emotional ups and downs that always follow living on the same diet “roller coaster?” The frustration of “cheating” on your diet, the constant tinge of hunger that goes along with starvation, and the realization that it’s just too easy to put all the weight you might lose after a diet right back on again…
The good news is that all of this can come to an end if you learn how to change your habits, behaviors and the relationship you have with food. Losing weight doesn’t have to be a struggle, doesn’t have to be hard – and your body doesn’t need to make it a challenge. The “trick” (which, really, isn’t a trick) is to learn new habits and change your mindset when it comes to food and eating. And yes, doing so is really possible. It’s just a matter of having the right tools at your disposal.
This is why I’m excited about participating in a new (and free) digital summit the features 22 nutritionists, doctors, fitness experts, psychologists, coaches, therapists and other transformational health experts who will be on-hand (well, on screen anyway) for 11 straight days to share all of their expert techniques, tips and advice with beautiful you. It’s my good friend Lisa Goldberg’s Right Mind, Right Weight Summit for 2017. And it’s something anyone who has struggled with weight issues isn’t going to want to miss.
This isn’t just another “diet discussion” that will lecture you about what you can or can’t eat, or how much you should exercise to see results. This event is focused on changing your actual mindset in regard to healthy eating. It’s also going to help any participant learn how to change one’s thoughts, habits and relationship with food. This summit will strive to provide the missing ingredient to overcome anyone’s struggle with lifelong yo-yo dieting. In fact, you’ll have the opportunity to discover that losing weight doesn’t have to be difficult because you don’t need to “diet.”
All you need to do to participate for free is register for this summit and learn how to create the habits, behaviors and beliefs about food that can result in losing weight without actually going on a diet! And, once again, yours truly has been invited to be a guest panelist for the event this year! That means that I get to invite any I’d like to “attend” this event – 100% free of charge. That means you (along with whomever else you would like to invite – just share this link for free sign-up)!
Spots are limited so you’ll need to register via this link: Register Here (And remember, this incredible tele-summit event is 100% free for you.)
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